One more day, a day where all the fireworks go off and people go into the streets to celebrate. But, celebrate what? Who knows what the new year will bring? Are we celebrating the end of the previous year or the possibility of something great on the pending year? For me, I have the children but I will be silently celebrating the end of a horrible year.
Don’t get me wrong, there have been some nice achievements. A lot of debt has been cleared (still loads left sadly), some personal goals realised too. My divorce was finally complete after her deliberately ignoring letters for years. In the most part, despite personal and emotional trauma, it has been more successful than not.
I do not normally celebrate new years eve, in my opinion I think it is a little pointless. I think the night is largely reserved for the younger generation, hell I used to go out every year to the nightclubs with friends. Seriously though, I intend to make big things happen in 2015 so possibly I will be bouncing around like a leprechaun next December 31st.
I think my biggest lesson learned from 2014 is to let people in. I spent so many years desperately trying to get out of the debt, trying to manage my ex, and trying to be a father. This year I started to tell people about the debt and they helped, I should have done this sooner. The other key lesson, and 2nd biggest, was to stand up for myself. I don’t mean school playground stand up for yourself, I mean say No to people instead of trying to please everyone all the time. You really can’t do that, please everyone, no matter how much you try. Thus I learnt to pick which people to respond to, and chose to completely shut my ex out of my world.
2014 has also been the year where the children share homes, this was the biggest emotional hit. I found it devastating for them, and myself. It was so hard, but at this stage it has become better. This is great for them, but I still resent this practise on a weekly basis. It does give me badly needed adult time though, so not a total disaster.
Enough of 2014, onto 2015. I have placed a couple of posts up with some of my plans but I do have very definite ideas for this new year. I will be starting the new year in a field metal detecting, I figure it is good luck to do that, we shall see! The house is also changing, not majorly but gradually it becomes more my own. Few other personal goals but the major one remains to clear the debt completely.
This quote is apt:
“What can be added to the happiness of a man who is in health, out of debt, and has a clear conscience?”
Happy new year everyone, I hope 2015 brings you happiness. To all my readers but a little extra luck to the people who are struggling with divorce/infidelity, those in debt, and those who are unhappy. Try and move your life forwards a little, I have learnt nobody can do it for you.