Christmas is over for another year, thank God. I used to really love Christmas, it was my favourite season, but since the family breakup I do not enjoy it at all. However, it is for the kids and that is what makes it worth it. Or……it was until this year.
Christmas day meant the visit of the ex and her father to spend the day, I could put up with this as it is, well, Christmas. The day went ok, and I managed to get her to leave at 4pm so not so bad. I was left thinking it may not have been as bad as I suspected it might be. The kids seemed happy and it was all over with no bad feeling.
And then we had boxing day. The kids went to the ex’s house, and I phoned them the next morning. It was on this call that I discovered an alternative Christmas day had occurred with her father and sister at her new place. A new pile of gifts for the children, some tagged from the ex and her partner. Here are the issues I am massively cheesed off by this.
Firstly, this was very deliberately planned behind my back. Her dad has always been very honest with me but this time not, it was sly and dishonest but I have got used to it with her family. Nobody had the respect to tell me what was going on, and She had no respect at all to discuss getting gifts for MY children from her and her partner. For me, this should have been discussed. My children receiving gifts from another man (I use that word loosely) is something that should be agreed upon, my daughter doesn’t even like him.
I have said that in 2015 things need to change, so I am taking this as one final hit. I sucked it up as usual only this time my ex is well aware of my anger because I didn’t show it. I just went quite and held her stare, she actually looked quite scared. She started with the usual sentence of “it isn’t what you think” but anyone else who has been through this will know that actually it IS exactly what I think.
Moving forwards, the positivity will not be affected by this. I need and will be looking after number 1 and things like this will have to roll off me I guess. I will go with everyone’s advice that her time will come, I do so hope it does.
Roll on New Year, I have plans for you.