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Competition win restores positivity

As you all know, I do a lot of competitions.  This hobby started as I was on my own a lot in the evenings, I was lucky enough to win some things very early.  Then I won a lot of things!

This gave me the bug obviously, in recent years though winning has been harder.  I suspect as life and finances grow tighter for people, more and more of those people look at entering competitions as a way to improve their lives.  Why not though, entering is completely free aside from increasing your spam mail by 500%.

I have won some really nice things, prior to the debt carnage I used them to furnish my home, to sell for money or to give to people on celebratory occasions.  I haven’t won anything in a couple of months though so was beginning to feel despondent.  The power of winning something though is amazing, yesterday I had a little parcel.  Opened it and I had won 100 teabags!  I know some people will laugh BUT stop and look it another way, that is 100 cups of tea I now don’t have to finance.  That may well only save me £6 but still a saving right?

One of the biggest tips I got, that did not involve scrimping, was to enter competitions and to enter a lot.   You don’t have to enter all the big flash ones like TV’s, cars, holidays etc.  Enter as many as you can that even help a little bit.  I have won boxes of crisps that have fed the kids at lunchtimes for months.   Hampers, fuel vouchers, shopping vouchers all help.  Also, there are loads where you can 1000 x product which is normally a jar of coffee or something similar but worth doing.

It’s amazing that winning a box of tea bags has given me renewed vigour and positivity.  In my limited experience, I have found one piece of good news normally leads to another.   And thus it has, I was dreading my speeding ticket notification as this adds to my existing points and yesterday I got that letter.  Amazingly it offered me the speed awareness course instead of points, amazing as you are only permitted to do 1 course every 3 years.  Now, I checked my records for when I last went, and I definitely attended one 2 years ago so I didn’t qualify.  But, apparently I do according to this statement “we have checked you are eligible and can confirm we do not have you registered on a course in the previous 3 years”.  Now, clearly this is an omission but I am grabbing it with both hands and looking at it as a stroke of luck.

Do you see where I am going with this?  Most of the time I find things tend to cascade downwards, you just need an anchor point to start an upward trend.  Perhaps this is it.

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Irritants after a break-up

Why am I writing this post today, well my ex broke protocol when it comes to social media.  We have a rule on Facebook where we do not put images of new partners on there, it offends family members and upsets the kids.  This is not an issue for me as I have remained single but my ex is still with the guy she cheated with.  Up until last night that rule stayed in place,  but today a Halloween party shows them together and lots of comments about them.  This is the usual middle finger in the air to everyone.

The agreement was, from my family and I to her, that if (when) it happened we would remove her and thus this will now happen.  There will be the usual rants and raves and excuses on how they have accidently appeared, but sadly we have heard it all before.

This is the final straw, you see I am very respectful.  I do not slate her in public and prefer to stay out of conversations about her.  I have also stayed out of the many many situations where people have wanted to get hold of her, these are the previous friends she has stitched up, partners of men she has approached and so on.

I mention irritants, there are so very many.  The biggest one for me is the total failure by Karma to punish her in any way for the multiple wrong doings.  I am not aiming for a beat up session here, but these are actual facts.  She is well known as a compulsive liar and a master maniplulator, and has no disregard for who she hurts.  Don’t get me wrong, people always get the tears and “I’m so sorry” but sadly it has all been heard before.   Hence, Karma…time to step up.

But, what is a massive irritant to me this time is her band of friends.  You see, when the affair came out and everything else she had done also came out, she lost all bar a couple of friends.  Somehow she latched onto a new band of younger girls who seem to worship her.  They clearly see her and her guy as a nice couple but right here is the kicker, they all know the history of what they both did?  What he did to his family was similar by the way.  Being as all those new found friends are married you would think even one of them would think it morally wrong?  It appears not.

Why does this actually irritate me?  Well, there is a pattern you see.  Every few years she causes a near nuclear bomb explosion everyone drops her, and she starts again.  It has happened at least 3 times since I have known her.  It irritates me that she can move on like that but, as stated above, she somehow manipulates the situation for them to feel sorry for her.  It is an astonishing skill, one I would love to intervene in.  I would love to turn up at one of the many ‘girlie nights’ and say “hold on, what she has told you is utter rubbish and here are ten people who will tell you differently to her story”.

So this is why I want life to pay her back, I am simply amazed she just moves on and people love her!    How come I have to struggle why she moves onto another life of luxury where she pays absolutely nothing towards it?  She is the mother of my children so I don’t want anything bad to happen to her but I would absolutely LOVE to see her publically ousted by someone.  This may sound cruel but why does nobody from her new group stand up and think hold on, this girl wrecked 2 families and she is sat her dining at my table.

I really struggle to understand it.

I try hard not to judge people, when I meet people with a past I try to understand it but this is different.  It is a trend, it has happened many times and so many people have been hurt by her.  If a queue formed it would snake around the block!

Not often I have a rant but at some point it would be nice to sit back and smirk.   Who else wouldn’t want to?  When someone cheats you want to see them fail from that point on, not  to sit back and watch their life get better!

I just felt like getting this off my chest.