Well, I have been a little quiet haven’t I? I will tell you why, it is the car crash that is my ex wife that sadly blew our lives apart again.
It all started last Sunday evening with a phone call at 9.30pm from her stating she had to bring the kids back to me as it had all ‘kicked off’. Completely over the moon as I got the kids back for an extra evening! They arrived back at 10pm, quiet and tearful so I realised something big had happened but didn’t push it. Hugs and kisses, then put them to bed before retiring too.
11pm the home phone rang but I didn’t get there quick enough but no message was left on the answer phone so I went back to sleep, until midnight when my mobile rang. It was her, in a police car, on the way round to mine. Yes, to my house. 10 minutes later she was at the door clutching multiple black bags and flanked by two police officers. Apparently this was the only place she could go and her name was on the mortgage so it was still her legal residence.
We move on, stay with the story guys.
In a 20 minute summary, it transpired that an argument had started around the children. As this was escalating, his children were dropped home and mine came back too (as you know) so they could continue the discussion indoors. This discussion turned into an all out fight which is where the police became involved, and she was subsequently thrown out by her partner, who also took her car keys. He was then arrested apparently.
What a pleasant environment that must have been. So, what to do? She was now on my sofa and I had to get up at 6am for work, so I let it slide.
Over the course of this week I have watched the inevitable unfold, of her slagging him off and involving her friends to forgiving him and then (I am guessing here) moving back in.
This is the story, but the point isn’t to highlight what I have to deal with it is to highlight what I will have to deal with imminently. It is even more obvious that I need to get her off the mortgage by raising the 10K needed. I signed up to the credit expert site and nervously checked my credit rating. Avid readers will know I was rated Poor previously, but now it is has moved to Fair. Don’t scoff though guys, a rating of ‘Fair’ is a massive improvement for me and testament to how much debt I have cleared.
Anyway, that rating is great for me trying to remortgage in June. I have to get her off this property so that when it happens again I can legally turn her away. This may sound harsh but I cannot have her continually causing havoc in my life, and the kids. This latest episode just prompts the need to do anything I can to get clear of her totally, all bar the kids of course.
What a nightmare eh? Caused even more upset for the children as well….her life really needs to be removed from mine. The cynics will ask how I was ever married to her……………..
I don’t even remember why.